The ADD Child: Challenging Parents, Teachers and Friends

The ADD Child: Challenging Parents, Teachers andform of trouble that a parent can name.
FriendsInsatiability: The ADD child has an insatiable need for
attention to be brought onto himself. While all children
The ADD child exhibits a series of behaviors that arethrive on adult attention, focus and concern, the child
common in most children. Most children misbehave, actwith ADD can never seem to get enough. They act
silly and day dream. So what, then, is the difference?out, talk incessantly, joke around, monopolize
The child with Attention Deficit Disorder exhibits theseconversations, demand the teacher's constant
behaviors in a constant and extreme manner, ofteninvolvement, show off to friends, and badger
interfering with their academic, social and familyincessantly until they get their way.
interactions.Clumsiness and Poor Coordination: Many ADD children
Here are the variety of ways that a child may exhibitexhibit problems with fine motor control. This can be
ADD behaviors:seen in poor handwriting and in difficulty performing
Inattention: The most visible and well-known behaviorother routine tasks such as buttoning buttons or tying
of a child with attention deficit issues is an inability toshoelaces. When combined with the child's inability to
maintain attention and focus over an extended periodplan or organize a flow of activities, the resulting
of time. This behavior shows up in a variety ofoutcome (written paper, self-dressing, etc.) may
situations, such as forgetting or confusing instructionsappear chaotic and disorganized. Many ADD children
that were just given, being inattentive when involved inalso exhibit gross motor control clumsiness due to poor
a conversation, growing bored of activities withinmotor planning cognitive skills or other co-existing
moments, appearing to be in a daze or day dream,weaknesses in areas such as balance,
and being unable to complete tasks.depth-perception or eye-hand coordination.
Hyperattention: Paradoxically, the same ADD child whoDisorganization: The ADD child is a study in
cannot stay focused enough to finish many commondisorganization! Whether it is the state of the child's
tasks will have no problem whatsoever in focusing onroom, the organization of a term paper, the set up of
a video game or TV show for hours. This ability tothe child's school supplies and workspace, grooming,
hyper-focus on chosen activities is very common indressing and hygiene skills, or any other aspect of the
the child with Attention Deficit Disorder. This behavior ischild's life, the most probable outcome will be a
possible only because the child pursues the desirabledisorganized mess. This results from the ADD child's
activity through a heightened level of excitement whichimpulsivity (jumping at any solution), distractibility
is a controlled form of hyperactivity.(stopping in the middle of any activity), hyperactivity
Distractibility: An ADD child can be easily distracted(pulling out and tearing apart everything in sight), and
from most activities by any form of stimulus in theinattention (they lose interest anyway!).
environment (movement, color, sound), as well as byMood Swings: With an ADD child, everything is always
their own scattered, fast-moving thoughts. This resultsat extremes, and their range of emotions is no
in half-finished or poorly completed tasks, constantdifferent. In some cases, they can be extremely
minor non-compliances with known rules, zig-zaggingdomineering and controlling as they seek to gain
from one activity to another, and the inability for theattention for themselves. In other cases, they can be
child to do well in group situations (such as school)unreachable, and no amount of discipline or parental
where compliance with the rules is important.intervention seems to have an effect. When an child
Impulsivity: An ADD child will often blurt out informationwith ADD is "stuck" in the emotions of the moment,
in inappropriate ways and make poor decisions relativethere seems to be no way for reasonable discussions
to their actions. This child may risk his or her ownto bypass the emotional whirlwind in progress. ADD
safety without a second thought, running into thechildren can be described as oppositional, stubborn,
street, climbing to the top of a tree or rock formation,overly-dramatic, flighty, ecstatically happy or
or jumping or diving into a pool without checking theexcessively sensitive, just to name a few of the
depth. The child with ADD acts on impulse rather thanextremes experienced by ADD children.
through logic or problem-solving. Impulsivity in manyPoor Social Skills: Based on all of the issues discussed
ADD children can also be characterized by impatienceso far, it's not surpising that ADD children don't fare
or temperamental (often oppositional) behavior sincewell with peer relationships. They speak and act
the ADD child often feels a driving need for somethingimpulsively, show off and dominate conversations or
(anything!) to happen immediately.class time, clown around at inappropriate times, miss
Hyperactivity: Of all the characteristics of an ADD child,subtle social cues, may be physically clumsy and
the behavior that is most difficult for those around theawkward, and often irritate and annoy their peers in a
child to accept is the presence of hyperactivity. Thethousand daily ways.
child with hyperactivity is always in motion -- touching,As a result of the symptoms and behaviors just
searching, pushing, jumping, running, tapping, anddescribed, the ADD child encounters all too many
squabbling with friends and siblings. The hyperactivedifficulties in their young lives. True ADD should not be
ADD child seems to need a high level of stimulation atconsidered a "phase" that will be outgrown. Rather,
all times in order to feel OK. Hyperactivity will also beparents and educators should seek all of the education
seen in the form of a child who talks incessantly,and knowledge they can find to help these kids flourish
clowns around all of the time, and finds every otherand succeed throughout the elementary school years.