Children with ADD-ADHD - Some Personality Traits

InflexibilityThis lack of self-esteem leads to unease and
ADHD children often display an inflexible or dogmaticawkwardness when mixing with their peers, particularly
nature and things are usually either black or white, within a group situation. It is usually easier to deal with only
no shades in-between. Once they have made aone or two friends at a time. This means that it is
decision or taken a particular attitude, they find it veryoften difficult to build up a circle of friends in the normal
difficult to change it, even if the circumstances haveway and this is exacerbated as the child grows older
changed. A change in the plans for the day, which& reaches adolescence. By this stage their
may result from circumstances outside the control ofself-confidence may be virtually non-existent & they
the parents', can result in a tantrum which is quitefeel quite inadequate socially.
disproportionate to the actual event.In order to gain acceptance by their peer group, they
These children seem to have a lower frustrationneed to find ways of making themselves attractive to
threshold than other children and are more easily upsetthem. This means that they are much more easily
than others. Their problems with adjustment toinfluenced & led astray by other children, who are
changes seem to also lead to great problems inquick to recognise when they are dealing with
handling choice. Offered a choice of sweets, aftersomeone who is inherently weaker than themselves &
much deliberation, the child will choose one, only toexploit this. The ADHD child is often 'set up' by others
demand a different one when he is actually given thebecause of his desire to gain acceptance & because
original choice. This may appear to be a disciplinaryof his relative naivety & impulsiveness. They are much
problem but in a child with ADHD, it is part of the child'smore likely to end up in trouble than their peers.
poor ability to make a decision and stick with it.Social Immaturity
Self-esteemChildren with ADHD tend to be significantly more
This is a major problem for anyone with ADHD. As aimmature in their behaviour & social interaction. This is
child grows, developments in the brain allow him tothe case both at home & at school, but will be
develop an awareness of himself, & the value ofparticularly obvious at school where they often act the
himself, in relation to his environment & to other childrenclass clown to gain the approval of their peers. They
of his own age in particular. Because of a dysfunctionalso seem to experience emotions differently or
in the central part of the brain in children with ADHD,inappropriately, displaying an emotional immaturity.
they do not develop an appropriate self-concept.