| Many times when I am working with parents
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| | memory of what was said, and react to the
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| and children, I am asked how effective is
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| | child's frustration, instead of simply
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| NLP with children. My answer, NLP is
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| | acknowledging and responding.
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| very effective when working with
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| | An explain of a conversation postulate
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| children, if the adult is prepared to
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| | would be "I feel a draft, is the front
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| calibrate, test, re-calibrate, test,
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| | door open?" A likely adult response to
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| laugh, laugh, and learn.
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| | this is……someone gets up and checks
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| Each child is unique, think about
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| | the door. A likely child response is "I
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| fingerprints, no two sets are alike, and
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| | don't know, it wasn't open when I walked
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| yet many people think that what works
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| | past it". Or "I closed it when I came
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| with one child will surely work with all
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| | in." Followed by a look at someone else.
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| children.
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| | Now here is what I find amusing.
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| NLP is not a thing, it is based on
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| | Although most people are completely
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| observation, curiosity, guessing and then
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| | unaware of conversational postulates,
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| testing, sometimes through trial and
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| | they are all around us, and we have been
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| error. Children are masters at
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| | taking for granted the natural response,
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| flexibility. If they want something,
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| | to a point where many of us, have come to
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| they will continuously and creatively
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| | count on the response. Somebody else
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| modify their behavior until they either
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| | gets up and checks the door, oven,
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| get what they want, or discover something
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| | thermostat, time etc. But what happens
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| else to focus their attention on. The
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| | when what we expect doesn't happen and we
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| younger the child the easier they can be
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| | have to take action ourselves?
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| distracted.
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| | The adult gets confused, and then
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| So the bottom line is, the adult must
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| | annoyed, because what they expected to
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| have more flexibility of behavior to keep
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| | happen didn't.
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| up with the child. And please remember,
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| | Time for a change. Test the questions,
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| behavior can change quickly and easily.
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| | and be prepared to get the answer for
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| Child also have very good memories. Most
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| | yourself. If you aren't getting the
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| ADD children have amazingly precise
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| | response you expected, laugh and move on.
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| memories. Unfortunately, many adults
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| | There is still so much children can
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| have little appreciation for the precise
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| | teach us, enjoy the learning!
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