| So you want to know how to manage anger in kids | | | | feeling and what will happen if they act upon them. Its |
| with ADHD as soon as they start losing control on | | | | natural - as natural as breathing. Some, no doubt, will |
| their emotions? | | | | have more difficulty in controlling anger than others but |
| I understand how you feel - in fact when I was taking | | | | most of us will be able to control the rage. |
| care of my nephew for my sister (single mother) | | | | But a child with ADHD/ADD can be very impulsive in |
| when she started to work again, I wasn't prepared at | | | | reaction without thinking and their emotions can easily |
| all! So I fully understand what you must be going | | | | be provoked. The impulsivity and the restlessness can |
| through when dealing with children with ADHD. | | | | become too much to handle sometimes and finally it |
| But I have a secret for you...and it is this: | | | | outbursts into anger. |
| I am no mother and I was able to deal with my | | | | Reacting to their anger doesn't work! It worsens the |
| nephew's anger and so can you! | | | | problem. |
| And get this, statistics say that one in every two kids | | | | So instead, let's use this simple but powerful tip. |
| show symptoms of ADHD. Uncontrollable Anger and | | | | It is this... |
| ADHD/ADD are not connected but many symptoms | | | | Empathetic Curiosity |
| of ADHD and ADD can certainly contribute to trigger | | | | All empathetic curiosity is, is utilizing empathy and |
| child's rage. | | | | curiosity to give yourself and your child a break from |
| ADHD and ADD are characterized by difficulty for | | | | the current situation or argument. Like taking a break |
| child to pay attention to the present moment and | | | | from 'tug of war'!. |
| surroundings. They suffer from high degrees of | | | | You can do this in multiple ways. |
| restlessness and hence their impulsive behavior. | | | | 1. Talk to the child of what he/she must be feeling right |
| A child without ADHD also have difficulty managing | | | | now. "That chore you are doing is really hard for you. I |
| their emotions and anger, so a child with ADHD will | | | | can see it make you feel frustrated." |
| obviously have less skill and presence of mind to deal | | | | 2. As soon as you realize the situation will go out of |
| with their emotions, am I correct? | | | | hand, say to the child, "lets take time out". Offer a |
| This is good news for us - since all of us who have to | | | | choice - do you want to sit in the garden or take a |
| deal and manage children more often than not tend to | | | | walk? Main point to remember here is time out is for |
| beat ourselves up for not being a good parent or not | | | | both of you and it should be any place that is not |
| possessing good parenting skills!. | | | | where the anger situation happened. Offering a choice |
| I want you to think about this - when you were a kid, | | | | to the kid gives him/her a sense of control over the |
| do you remember of incidences or other kids who | | | | situation as well. Praise him/her once both of you have |
| provoked you and you felt this intense anger and the | | | | cooled down. |
| need to let out that anger (never thinking about the | | | | Warning: Do not neglect 'Patience' on your part. Be |
| immediate consequence )!!. | | | | sure to practice patience and deep breathing in your |
| Typically, a child without ADHD will then without | | | | own time. |
| realizing take a moment to reflect on what they are | | | | |