| 1. Give my self permission to lose control (in | | | | demands for self-reform, Dr. Lara Honos-Webb's, |
| non-destructive ways). | | | | Listening to Depression: How Understanding Your Pain |
| 2. Spend my time building on my strengths rather than | | | | Can Heal Your Life gives the healing message that the |
| patching up my weaknesses. | | | | search for perfection can backfire. Learn how aiming |
| 3. Ask myself every day "What do I need?" and then | | | | for pleasure, permission, power and presence can |
| take a step to meet that need. | | | | offer so much more than losing those last 10 pounds. |
| 4. Make myself right instead of wrong. | | | | And how pleasure, permission, power and presence |
| 5. Honor my sadness and know that living with great | | | | will make it so much easier to lose those last 10 |
| vibrancy is the greatest tribute to those we love. | | | | pounds. |
| 6. Make a list of activities that are delightful and do one | | | | This new year, try to break out of the habit of starting |
| every week. | | | | your new year by giving yourself a rigid program for |
| 7. Honor pleasure over performance demands, some | | | | self-reform. Give yourself permission to value |
| of the time. | | | | presence over performance demands and outstanding |
| 8. Admit that I don't know. | | | | expression of your gifts over narrow competition. You |
| 9. Slow Down. | | | | will be so much more effective at achieving your goals |
| 10. Say "NO" to myself on occasion and to others on | | | | when you are guided by your strengths. We think we |
| many more occasions. | | | | will be happy when we achieve our goals, but really - |
| Whereas most New Year's resolutions impose rigid | | | | we will achieve our goals when we are already happy. |