| Many times when I am working with parents and | | | | the child's frustration, instead of simply acknowledging |
| children, I am asked how effective is NLP with children. | | | | and responding. |
| My answer, NLP is very effective when working with | | | | An explain of a conversation postulate would be "I feel |
| children, if the adult is prepared to calibrate, test, | | | | a draft, is the front door open?" A likely adult response |
| re-calibrate, test, laugh, laugh, and learn. | | | | to this is......someone gets up and checks the door. A |
| Each child is unique, think about fingerprints, no two | | | | likely child response is "I don't know, it wasn't open |
| sets are alike, and yet many people think that what | | | | when I walked past it". Or "I closed it when I came in." |
| works with one child will surely work with all children. | | | | Followed by a look at someone else. |
| NLP is not a thing, it is based on observation, curiosity, | | | | Now here is what I find amusing. Although most people |
| guessing and then testing, sometimes through trial and | | | | are completely unaware of conversational postulates, |
| error. Children are masters at flexibility. If they want | | | | they are all around us, and we have been taking for |
| something, they will continuously and creatively modify | | | | granted the natural response, to a point where many |
| their behavior until they either get what they want, or | | | | of us, have come to count on the response. |
| discover something else to focus their attention on. | | | | Somebody else gets up and checks the door, oven, |
| The younger the child the easier they can be | | | | thermostat, time etc. But what happens when what |
| distracted. | | | | we expect doesn't happen and we have to take |
| So the bottom line is, the adult must have more | | | | action ourselves? |
| flexibility of behavior to keep up with the child. And | | | | The adult gets confused, and then annoyed, because |
| please remember, behavior can change quickly and | | | | what they expected to happen didn't. |
| easily. | | | | Time for a change. Test the questions, and be |
| Child also have very good memories. Most ADD | | | | prepared to get the answer for yourself. If you aren't |
| children have amazingly precise memories. | | | | getting the response you expected, laugh and move |
| Unfortunately, many adults have little appreciation for | | | | on. There is still so much children can teach us, enjoy |
| the precise memory of what was said, and react to | | | | the learning! |