| If you have ADHD or ADD, do you argue with other | | | | jelly for my toast," much of that push and pull wouldn't |
| people often? I mean, do you spend half-an-hour | | | | have happened. But you didn't communicate what you |
| exchanging words without getting your point across? | | | | wanted clearly. The old saying still applies: The shortest |
| Even when you're saying exactly the same thing as | | | | distance between any two points is a straight line. |
| the person you're arguing with, you can't come to a | | | | In business, clarity of communication is very important. |
| meeting of the minds. How frustrating is that? | | | | What happens when your boss brings you a job and |
| No wonder you're frustrated! Arguments just make | | | | explains it, but you're still fuzzy on the details? Do you |
| you feel off-balance. But often, arguments arise not | | | | speak up, or just do the job your way? If you don't get |
| because there's a difference in opinion, but only a | | | | answers to make the task clear and do it wrong, then |
| difference in how the opinion is expressed. Many | | | | what? It's important to ask questions when you don't |
| people with AD/HD have this problem and when you | | | | quite understand what your boss means. For all you |
| don't feel understood, it can also make you feel very, | | | | know, unless they've been open about it, he or she |
| very alone. It's like nobody understands you. | | | | might be AD/HD, too, and has trouble explaining things |
| But when you learn a few tricks about communicating | | | | clearly.. |
| clearly, this will happen to you much less often. | | | | But what if you're on the other end of this |
| Notice how easy life is for people that communicate | | | | process--you're the one giving instructions? Now, it's |
| well. They' re able to express what they want clearly | | | | very important to be perfectly clear about what you |
| and most of the time, they get it. And these skills are | | | | want. But you can't leave it at that. At the end of your |
| applicable whether you're talking about business or | | | | explanation, you have to say, "Was anything about |
| inter-personal relationships. | | | | what I just told you unclear?" Don't just trot off after a |
| For instance, you're in a restaurant and you tell the | | | | quick explanation and think that the person |
| server what you want for your meal. You say, "I'll have | | | | understands because they well may not. You have to |
| scrambled eggs and bacon." But you forgot to tell the | | | | leave the door open for questions, especially because |
| server you needed ketchup for your eggs. So, he | | | | you have AD/HD and have a tendency to be unclear. |
| goes to get it for you. In the meantime, you've looked | | | | If your employee feels that your door is open to them, |
| at your bacon and it's crispy, when you prefer it to be | | | | they'll be more confident about doing their job, too. |
| a bit chewy. Now, you're unhappy with the cook. So, | | | | Once you realize that you can explain something fully |
| you tell the server and he takes the bacon and brings | | | | and have better communications with everyone, your |
| back fresh, which is cooked to your order. But wait! | | | | life will get easier. Forget that when you were a kid |
| You forgot to get some jelly for the toast that came | | | | you were probably chastised for talking too much. In |
| on the side, so now, you want jelly. The server is | | | | response, you're just talking too little! Be clear and |
| ready to go bananas! | | | | make yourself heard. Better communication skills will |
| Of course he is. If you had said, "I'd like scrambled | | | | help you in any situation. |
| eggs and chewy bacon, with ketchup on the side, and | | | | |